Growing up Mother’s Day was the day my dad, brother and I honored my mom.
When I was little I’d give her the handmade craft we did at school and the card with the printing of a child. She’d gush and make like I’d given her a priceless relic and I’d be so proud. The rest of the year I loved my mom but didn’t really honor her. I took her for granted knowing that she’d always be there to kiss my booboo’s, fix my favorite foods and tuck me into bed at night.
As I got older I’d give my mom store bought gifts and a store bought card. She’s still gush and make like I’d given her a priceless relic and I’d feel good. The rest of the year I didn’t honor her. I’d pick fights, we’d argue and I often made her cry. I’d have mixed feelings at those times. I’d be proud that I was breaking free of parental boundaries but I’d feel worse knowing I did this to my mom.
When I got older still and my dad passed away I’d give my mom my time. I’d take her someplace that I knew she’d love and she’d gush to all her friends about the great gift I gave her. The last Mother’s Day we spent together I bought tickets to see Frank Sinatra and took her out for dinner. I even bought her an outfit to wear for the occasion. She had to tell strangers that her daughter did this for her. I felt proud that I could give my mom my time and a memory.
Mom passed away the following January and I miss her terribly. For some reason this year has hit me hardest but I’m getting through it. I just wish I could do it all again and honor her not just one day out of the year but every day. I want to tell her I love her and show her in my actions and words. No more fights, no more trying to break free of the parental boundaries but embrace them for the love they were.
If your mom is still with you, don’t wait for Mother’s Day to show her or tell her. Don’t get upset because she wants to spend today with you when you only want to spend it being pampered by your kids. You’ll have plenty of time to be alone and I can guarantee you that while your kids are honoring you, you’ll be missing her.